Guest Post by My Friend Jennifer: Giving Up the High Cost of Low Living

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My friend Jennifer Boykin from Life After Tampons

Lately, I’ve realized I can no longer afford the “high cost of low living.”  I started with a little inventory of “why I eat.”

I eat when I get discouraged.  I eat when I feel frustrated.  I eat when things don’t go my way.  I eat when I’m tired.  I eat when I need to comfort myself.  I eat when I’m . . . unconscious, unaware, ungrateful, and depleted.

None of this is new.  But it’s getting too expensive to live this way.  In fact, I find myself priced out of the Self-Neglect market.

Here’s why:

I have a dream.  It’s a big one.  In fact, it is THE BIG ONE.

Today, I’m launching my Dream Business.  I’m the very proud creator of a MidLife Reinvention site, Life After Tampons. This is the biggest of the biggest secret dreams I’ve ever had – to create a community and provide all the resources a woman needs to implement the answer to this one question:

“What would you do if you KNEW you could not fail?”

Well, what I would do is build a community of women who were all doing their Big Dream.

But there is a problem.

The way I care for myself has now become a factor in my ability to produce.   To look at me you wouldn’t know it.  I’m still cute and at a normal weight.  But I’m tired.  All the time.  For a long time, I have joked that “my body is just a transportation vehicle to take my brain from one interesting thing to another.”  Funny.  And, as I said,  it’s worked for me for a long time.

But now it doesn’t.

When it comes to choosing between self-care and self-denial, it helps to take an inventory of the “costs” associated with choosing the latter.  In this case, taken to the extreme, a lack of self-care could ultimately cost me my dream.  And I’m not willing to pay that price.

So, even though I have a boatload of writing and networking and designing and such to do, I find myself willing – just for today – to put all of that aside to eat an apple, fetch a glass of water with a lovely slice of lemon, pause for a couple of Downward Dogs and Sun Salutations.

If I want to serve you – and I do – if I want to bear witness to the manifestation of your dream – and I do – then I MUST take time away from you, from my work, from my beautiful brain to take care of the Transportation Vehicle that is moving this whole dream forward.

 

And the day to begin is today. The moment to begin is now.  Because, at nearly 50, there just isn’t TIME LEFT to postpone my joy.  I want to care for myself so I can care for you.  I want to care for myself because I care ABOUT myself.

It’s time to make myself and my health a TRUE and LASTING priority in my own life.  Given what’s at stake, it’s truly the most selfless thing I can do.

 

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Subway – An Excellent Choice!

by susan74

Many people consider Subway to be a place where it’s pretty easy to eat healthy. By and large, that is correct – just ask Jared Fogle! There are many, many low calorie options on the Subway menu. Let’s explore their 6″ treasures.

First things first: unless otherwise stated, we’ll assume we’re going to be conscientious eaters and order our 6″ subs without cheese. We’ll be getting 9-grain wheat bread (because any other type may add up to 50 extra calories, except for a wrap which will add 100 calories), lettuce, tomatoes, onions, green peppers, banana peppers, jalapenos, pickles, olives and mustard. Leaving any of those off will only save 0-5 calories, so go veggie wild!

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Diet Rules for Your (Inner) Big Baby

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Grandma Baby, Grandpa Baby with grandbaby Eli

Does your I-want-what-I-want-when-I-want-it attitude toward food remind you of a baby?

Seems like we are mature adults in every area of our life, but we act like spoiled kids when it comes to food. Why? Your neuro-pathways regarding food and eating are programmed very early in life. And the earlier something is programmed the harder it is to change.

BUT YOU CAN CHANGE!
Science is giving us more and more evidence that the brain is plastic. Meaning it can change. But the bottom line is that you can’t bypass doing the right thing as a step to making new neuro-pathways.

Maybe since we are acting like children we could take some advice from our storehouse of tricks that we’ve used on children to get them to do the right thing.

Imagine you are on your way home from work/school and your 3 year old starts whining about how hungry they are for the (evil) golden arches. What are some tactics you would use?

1. Don’t argue with them.
Set a rule and be firm. Be consistent.
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The Secret to Eating at Chick-fil-A (the Menu, the Calories, the Nutritional Info You Need to be Successful on Your Diet!)

by susan74

Let’s face it, even the most reasonable person ends up at a fast food restaurant from time to time. Whether you’re health-conscious or not, many people adore Chick-fil-A. So you might as well get the truth…the low down on their menu and nutritional information. There are many reasons to be fond of this eatery, especially if you ask their spokescows! The food quality is good, there are almost always fresh flowers on each table, it’s usually rather clean, and – most importantly to some – they have an excellent toddler play area.

But what should one order of of the menu at Chick-fil-A and still be a reasonable calorie consumer?

Here is the nutritional low down:
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Well-Power Words

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Read through the blog post and at the end of it, you'll see how to (easily) create a "visual word collage" with your well-power words!

Even with the best laid plans, success with resolutions for weight loss (or anything else) seems at best a hit-or-miss proposition. Yes, wanting to make changes and intentionally setting your course to achieve the changes is a great concept, but you need more than an eating and exercise plan. You need under-girding that will bolster your will to follow those plans.

So instead of starting with the specific plans, I challenge you to start with that emotional foundation to provide the willpower to help you follow through on your resolutions, should you choose to make them. However, I am averse to using the word willpower,  in part because so many people have programmed themselves to believe that “when it comes to _____, I have no willpower” and also because it feels forceful instead of inviting. I instead use the words: well-power.
The word well can be used as a verb, as in ~~ “I can well up the power I need from within me.”

It can also connote “going to the well” a place of sustenance.

Also  as used with “well being”” or wellness plan.”

Here is a simple four step process that will provide you with the means to more easily make the well-power choices to reach your goals.
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(How To) Love Your Diet — Free Teleclass

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Free Teleclass on Monday 1/9/11

Did you know I’ve been a diet coach for 13 years, including 4 years with Weight Watchers? In that time I’ve learned how to love my own diet and how to help others love their diet journey as well. I’m going to be sharing eight ideas that one can use to turn any dieting experience from barely tolerable to soundly enjoyable.

Everyone who wants to lose weight will benefit whether they are currently following a diet, using a “lifestyle change” method of weight loss, or in need of inspiration to start or continue the weight loss journey.

In addition,for those live on the call I will include a link to my mini-ebook to help you choose the right diet for your personality type.

You must pre-register here
http://reasonablediet.com/webform/love_telesignup.html

Recordings will be available to those who have registered, but can not be on the call live.

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Morning Motivation — January 2012

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Please leave me a comment if you are listening to these recordings. If you can just as easily listen from the Facebook link, please let me know that as well. I’m happy to keep posting them here, but if no one is listening from this page, I’ll skip this step and just post at the Facebook page. Thanks for letting me know either way!

Jan 31, 2012 – 3 Tips including one that is super important…that is often neglected.
January 27, 2011 – Some coaching for Tasha, Risa and Donna.

January 26, 2012 – Some more practical tips
January 25, 2012 —  LOL — I can’t remember what I talked about. :-)

January 24, 2012 — Some tips on calories counting. (using a food scale)

January 20, 2012 -- Coaching day. We discuss finding the “will” to carry out our exercise plans. I had to use the backup recording…which starts 15 minutes before the call… so you need to start listening at 15:30.
January 19,2012
- 3 good reasons to love the body you have right now!

January 18, 2012 - Snacking.

January 17, 2012

January 16, 2012 – Not recorded

January 13, 2012

January 12, 2012

January 11, 2012 – What to do when you find yourself standing at the refrigerator, not because you are hungry, or because it is meal time, but because you are bored, discontented or procrastinating.

January 10, 2012 – “End the Debate”

January 9, 2012 – (hour long recording linked from the “Audio Article” pages

January 5, 2012 – I cover two really important concepts…1. Tonglin … a Buddhist concept that I learned from Pema Chodron…about how to have compassion for others through learning to have compassion for ourselves…and how this applies to dieting. ALSO introduced using “wellpower” instead of “willpower” — I’ll be continuing on this topic tomorrow.

January 4, 2012 — Didn’t get recorded.

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Top Four Tips to Make Your Diet Resolutions Stick from Reasonable Diet

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May your heart open to all that is good about your body and all that is good in the world.

Believe in magic!

1.  Be a diet jumper.

Don’t assume that the diet that you choose to follow, the guideline or rules you choose to follow will be the right for you all year long. Take 15 minutes each week evaluate and adjust.

2. Make grey okay.
Let go of black and white thinking. You are not on-the-diet or off-of-the diet. Everyday can have good, better and best choices.  Even on days when you feel rebellious or disorganized, just label it a grey day and ask yourself what good, better and best choices you can make until you get back on track.

3. P&P is key.
Consider planning and preparation key. You’ll relay a whole lot less on willpower to resist the donut and latte if you can grab a bag of carrots and bottle of water as you walk out the door.

4. Believe in magic.
Every doc in the land believes in magic or they wouldn’t insist on only looking at research that has used placebos. Placebos indicate that just by believing it is so, we can cure ourselves of everything from psoriasis to cancer. Magic! Why then can’t we increase our metabolism and increase our rate weight loss?  Why do we believe it will be too hard; our tastes will never change; we’ll just put the weight back on? Believe in magic! Believe that you don’t currently have all the answers and that new solutions will magically apprear! Believe that you can learn something new. Believe that this will be a year of transformation! Take time in your weekly check-in to remind yourself that with magic anything is possible

 

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Reasonable Diet Lose 20 in 12 weeks Program– Cost? Pay-What-You-Can !

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What is the monthly fee that you are able and willing to pay for a Reasonable Diet group that includes

  • live (and recorded)  weekly group coaching call with Sandra
  • accountability
  • motivation
  • weekly videos
  • daily informational/motivational material (either through FB or email)
  • LIVE 5-minute check-in accountability/motivation call each morning
  • recipes
  • clean-eating menus
  • group support
  • … and more more more!

Pay What You Can

In 2011 I introduced the Reasonable Diet Self-Paced Program. It was based on my overwhelming successful “Lose 20 Pounds in 12 Weeks Group Coaching” program, but it was all recorded so you could listen and watch at your own convenience … and… oops… it was not a great big overwhelming whopping success that I thought it was going to be.

I did have some shining stars like

"Thanks Sandra! I lost 26 pounds in less than 12 weeksand 31 pounds in 16 weeks! " ~~ Amy P.

"After 12 weeks, I lost 8 pounds. Not record-breaking, weight-loss-wise, but it felt like a true bonus because I had gained so much more from theprogram in terms of insights and motivation about other areas of my life." ~~ Linda S.

 

there are dozens more success stories…
… but that is just not enough.

I gave an exit survey for those who participated and found out that the problem was not the information or the method … the problem was lack of personal coaching and accountability.

So back to the tried and true…

Back to what has always worked for my client …

Back to the  small group coaching program Lose 20 Pounds in 12 Weeks (or your money back)!

There will be weekly in-office (Champaign) meetings and telegroups /webcast/skype participation.

!!!!!!!!! ~~~ Here is the big news~~~~!!!!!!!!


I want you to have the weekly personalized accountability and Reasonable Diet coaching that really works for weight loss, but I want to make it affordable for everyone, so I’m doing a big experiment. (Against the advice of my business coach who thinks this is a bit of a wacky plan, but guided by my Spirit, so please help me make this work! )

 

2011 pricing for Reasonable Diet Lose 20 Pounds in 12 Weeks =  $471 = $157 per month x 3 months.

2012 pricing for Reasonable Diet Lose 20 Pounds in 12 Weeks = PAY WHAT YOU CAN AFFORD !!!

This is not for the Self-Paced program… this is for the
personal small group coaching with me! —  Lose 20 Pounds in 12 Weeks program!


Ready to go? — Groups have already started… but we are finding ways to include everyone who wants to be part of it. Email me today and I’ll give you the details. sandra@reasonablediet.com

Sandra

 

Sandra Ahten, Reasonable Diet

 

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Do You Know What a Call-to-Love Is? Do you Know What YOUR Call-to-Love Is?

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Robert Holden has a sweet soft spoken English accent and the most gentle take on life. I listen to him on Hay House Radio and as he speaks my heart just opens up. (Hay House Radio is a gem that has really sparked my spiritual engine since I subscribed a year or so ago.)

Robert  is the author of 10 best selling books including Shift Happens. Cute title, right? Last week I listened to a show where Robert presented an idea that really caused a big shift in my thinking.

“EVERYTHING is about Love. Everything.”

Your divorce? About Love.
Your bankruptcy? About Love.
Your illness? About Love.

Note: You can insert anything you want for “Love” — maybe your word is “God.” Maybe your word is “Higher Self” or “Spirit.” Maybe it really is simply, love without the big dramarama of the capital L.

As I do at the end of every year, I’ve been spending a lot of time rooting around

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The Olive Garden Menu – Beware Of The Salad and Breadsticks!

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When one thinks of The Olive Garden, salad and breadsticks probably come to mind. After that comes huge plates of rich, delicious pasta. Right? Well, it doesn’t have to be that way, especially once you learn that those choices are easily worth around a total of 2000 calories. Seriously! There is a better way to take your “Tour of Italy” and be able to walk out without having to unbutton your pants.

First things first: the Olive Garden menu is actually filled with many, many delicious non-pasta dishes. But before your wise dinner choice arrives at your table, you should be aware of the calories in their famous breadsticks and salad.

  • One breadstick (with garlic-butter spread) has 150 calories.
  • One serving of Garden-Fresh Salad with dressing has 350 calories.
  • INSIDER’S TIP — you can ask to have the salad without the dressing for 150 calories per serving.

Shocking, isn’t it? Maybe not. You definitely need to go in with a reasonable plan, or you’ll consume 500 calories before dinner even arrives. Scary stuff!

Now on to dinner! First the heavy hitters of the Olive Garden menu:
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Red Robin Menu – More Than Just Gourmet Burgers

by susan74

Red Robin is a great place to go for a splurge. And by splurge I mean an entire day’s worth of calories in one meal. Crazy, huh? If you order one of the gourmet burgers from the Red Robin Menu, and then proceed with their ‘unlimited’ steak fries, you can easily consume 2000 calories. I mean, since they’re ‘unlimited’ and all, who can stop at just one serving? Here is the ugly truth:

  • All burgers hover around 1000 calories at minimum. If you remove the bun, you can save around 230 calories.
  • Those steak fries are over 400 calories per serving. The sweet potato fries, by the way, are even more!

If you sign up to receive emails, offers, etc. they’ll give you one of those burgers for FREE on your birthday. Given how much exercising it will take to burn it off, you might want to opt out!

Before you deem a “gourmet burger joint” an inappropriate place for a dieter, know that there are a few burger alternatives from the Red Robin Menu that might fit the bill:

  • The Lettuce-Wrap Your Burger — just what is sounds like — is a beef burger sans bun for 423 calories.
  • The Garden Burger (essentially a veggie burger) is a lightweight at 478 calories. And you get to keep the bun!
  • The Grilled Turkey Burger can be gobble-gobbled up for 578 calories.
  • The Vegan Boca Burger is both animal and calorie friendly at a mere 462 calories.

Unless if you’ve run a marathon that day, you should probably skip the unlimited steak fries. Some slimmer sides are definitely available on the Red Robin Menu:

  • The old standby Steamed Broccoli will delight your digestive system with only 32 calories.
  • Melon Wedges will be a cool, crisp addition for only 61 calories.
  • A cup of French Onion Soup has 208 calories. Breath mints are extra!
  • A Side House Salad with Balsamic Vinagrette or a Side Caesar Salad are both just over 200 calories.

Several of their chicken sandwiches may be worth a mini-splurge, as they are mostly between 600-800 calories. However, beware of the Whiskey River BBQ Chicken Sandwich. You may as well get a gourmet burger, because it has 1022 calories! Salads typically have 700-800 calories (unless you skip the dressing) and wraps have an eye-popping 850-1119 calories. Without a side item!

  • One offering on the Red Robin Menu not to be missed is the Ensenada Chicken Platter (1 piece). It’s a chicken breast smothered with lots of fresh, yummy Southwest-style acoutrements, including Salsa-Ranch Dressing,  for only 558 calories! If you feel that you need the 2 piece version, it’ll only set you back 704 calories.
  • Beware of the Southwest Pasta. Even without chicken it packs a punch with 1028 calories!

If you plan to browse their dinner menu before you go, please be aware that the Red Robin website does not easily offer up nutrition facts. You have to choose entrees one at a time to learn of their calories, etc. Their tool is called The Customizer and it is a rather slow way to pick and choose.

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Chili’s Menu: the good, the bad, and the unthinkable!

by susan74

You may need some tall boots to sift through the rubbish on the Chili’s Menu. For a place that seems to be so lively and accommodating to all walks of life, they do NOT have extensive choices for us mindful eaters.

  • Appetizers: Taking it from the top, they offer a free gift for joining their Chili’s Email Club – a free order of Skillet Queso & Chips. Before you get too excited about this, recognize that it will cost you 1710 calories! Even if you split it four ways, you’ve consumed about 428 calories before your entree ever arrives. The other appetizers aren’t far behind, in fact some are worse. Bring on the soup! A cup of Broccoli Cheese seems like a bargain at only 110 calories. A bowl of Loaded Baked Potato Soup, however, will cost you 410 calories. You may as well have shared your “free” Skillet Queso & Chips with others for that many calories!
  • Ribs are often the first order of business for many viewers of the Chili’s Menu. Beware! A “full rack” of any variety is over 2000 calories! And that’s without a single side item! Ouch. Half racks are available, but come on… you can do the math.
  • Burgers range from 1300 – 2300 calories each, without a side item. Homestyle Fries or Loaded Mashed Potatoes will run about 400 calories each.
  • Sandwiches and Pasta are mostly well over 1200 calories without sides.

Enough bad news already! What can one actually feel good about ordering from the Chili’s menu?

  • Salad: while a health conscious person does not always have to order salad, there are some good options on the Chili’s menu. The Caribbean Salad with Grilled Chicken or Grilled Shrimp would only set you back about 600 calories. However, beware of the Quesadilla Explosion Salad! 1300 calories will explode into your waistline.
  • Fajitas are also a popular item on the Chili’s Menu. If you skip the side items, you can have your own fiesta for 800-1000 calories, including condiments and three tortillas!
  • Custom Combinations: Margarita Grilled Chicken or Grilled Salmon or Spicy Garlic & Lime Grilled Shrimp are three selections that, when paired with Rice and Black Beans or Cinnamon Apples or Steamed Broccoli and Sweet Corn on the Cob WITH BUTTER, can leave one feeling quite satisfied to the tune of 410 – 570 calories.

Whether you have stylish boots or not, you can now survive the Chili’s menu. May the fork be with you!

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Ruby Tuesday Nutrition Information Alert! — Three (Tricky) Things to Avoid on Ruby Tuesday’s Menu

by susan74

With the lure of their Endless Fresh Garden Bar, it’s no wonder that Ruby Tuesday is a target for many health conscious diners. An added bonus is the abundance of online coupons for this “Simple, Fresh, American Dining” chain. So how does someone committed to conscientious eating get the most bang for their calories? You’re about to learn which Ruby Tuesday nutrition makes the grade.

Winning Ruby Tuesday Nutrition:

  • All of their “Fit & Trim” items have less than 700 calories when paired with roasted spaghetti squash and fresh grilled zucchini. Petite Parmesan Shrimp Pasta, Barbecue Grilled Chicken, and Grilled Salmon are three choices that have the makings of a hearty plate.
  • As for other areas of their dinner menu, one might pair Chicken Fresco with two vegetable sides and easily stay under 600 calories. Who could turn down an all-natural grilled chicken breast in a blanket of creamy spinach and artichoke sauce topped with shredded Parmesan cheese?
  • If seafood floats your boat, the New Orleans Seafood includes Creole-seasoned tilapia, sauteed shrimp, and Parmesan cream. Pair that with two vegetable sides and you’re still under 600 calories!
  • For the burger lovers out there, they offer their signature “minis.” Buffalo Chicken Mini’s, Turkey Minis, and Zucchini Cake Minis all come in at less than 900 calories when served with fries. If you substitute a plain baked potato (which you could dress up with salsa or lower-calorie salad dressing), rice pilaf or vegetables, you can easily knock your total down to 700 calories or less.

Failing Ruby Tuesday Nutrition:

  • Chicken & Broccoli Pasta, which sounds virtuous enough, will cost you 1545 calories before you even consider adding a side item or a trip to the Endless Fresh Garden Bar.
  • Grilled Chicken Quesadilla packs 1250 calories. You can’t always trust the ole standby of grilled chicken!
  • California Club Quesadilla earns a whopping 1486 calories. Avocado and sprouts have apparently been transformed from ‘good fats’ to just plain ‘fattening’.

While the salad bar may have been pared down a bit in recent times to encourage more “salad on the plate,” a fresh, healthy dinner can definitely be had if you consider the Ruby Tuesday nutrition menu before you go.

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Food Pushers and Manners

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My main response to clients who tell me that they have people who regularly “push” food on them, is to urge them to be consistent. That is, if they relent when their arm is twisted, they  will invite that behavior pattern in the future.

“Ummm, no, no, no, …. Oh well, okay if I must.” Be careful of setting up that pattern with people you eat or socialize with regularly. Ask yourself, “Am I just wanting someone to twist my arm, so I don’t have to take full responsibility?”

The folks at Clean Eating Magazine gave some excellent advice in their Jan/Feb 2009 issue, that I’m sharing here. They don’t have the article online …

… but here is a link to their fab magazine www.cleaneatingmag.com

The article is called “A Lesson in Etiquette.”

Avoid trigger words like no, can’t, shouldn’t, diet, lose weight, etc. Chances are when you utter phrases with these words they will spark debate. The person will gear up to convince you to eat
what they are offering.

Why? People don’t want to be rejected. Of course, you aren’t really rejecting them, you’re rejecting the food. Nonetheless, take rejection out of the equation altogether.

When you use positive language, acknowledge the gesture, and suggest an alternative they may cease and desist.

Here are some suggestions from the article:

~~ Thanks, I’m going to pass for now.
~~ Thank you! I may have a little bit later.
~~ Thanks. I’m full. Everything was so delicious.
~~ I just ate, but I’d love to keep you company.
~~ It looks delicious. Can I have the recipe?
~~ That is so thoughtful of you to make it just for me. Can I take some home?
~~ I’m going to stick with my water/juice/tea for now.
~~ I’ve had plenty, thanks. I’m going to pass on dessert for now.

Aren’t those great lines?

I’ve come up with the perfect follow up line also. Follow any of the lines above with “You are such a great host.” Or “So-and-so throws such great parties, doesn’t she?” With that the subject is now “them” instead of “you.”

 

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